I have always wondered what is an extraordinary life. What is necessary to do, what is necessary to be in order to call your life an extraordinary one. Do you have to be a famous artist or actress, a well known scientist that discovered a cure for a disease, or you have to be a successful businessman that changed the world with his influence or some kind of creative innovator.
I am none of these things. I discovered nothing important. I had a couple of research projects during my masters and my findings were not crucial nor significant. I have had some insights during my life but nothing that was not already discussed by others before.
And maybe that’s the point. We diminish our efforts and our accomplishments by comparing ourselves with those who have made major and well known success in the world. And we think that our lives are not that important because, in our minds, if we would think like that of ourselves we would consider ourselves to be narcissistic, people would think we are showing off, etc.
But in the end what is actually important. What is the driving force of extraordinary efforts? The belief itself that the work you do is important, is important for you. If you don’t believe, then you will lose your motivation and in the end you would might as well finish your work or a project but you wouldn’t feel completely happy with it. You might get the highest grade for it, or your superior’s praise, but you would feel like something is missing. You didn’t invest yourself completely because from the beginning you didn’t believe your work is important. And this might be a form of self-defensive mechanism. We protect ourselves from failure by expecting it and not having high hopes for success. And you don’t want to be perceived as a person who is not humble of her or his work and accomplishments. However, this attitude is a trap that in one hand keeps us in the safe zone but on the other it keeps us from growing as well.
You can think of yourself and your work as important and you can be humble in the same time if you see other people’s efforts as significant as well. Everyone can contribute a bit more to society if they would cherish their work and their role in the society. If you cherish you as a person at work, as a mother, as a father, as a friend, etc. then your contribution to others would be even bigger, even more valuable. This is the key. If you cherish the value of your efforts, you will involve completely in your work and your results will be outstanding. People will notice your efforts and energy and you will be a motivating force for them as well. This is not about ego wanting success, this is about your inner being wanting to be fully expressed and not stopped in the middle because you were doubting yourself.
It doesn’t matter if you make mistakes in the process. Scientists make like a thousand of trials and errors in their experiments before they yield significant results. Sometimes they need years and years of hard work in order to make a progress. If those scientists gave up along the way, discouraged because of the lack of the results, nowadays we would be deprived for some major scientific breakthroughs. And deprived as well for beautiful art, significant insights into human nature and the world around us. Who knows how richer we would be as a society if many ingenious minds didn’t give up secretly.
If you cherish your everyday efforts and efforts of others, you will continuously create the outstanding results and your life will flourish into an extraordinary piece of existence.